YOUR WEDDING INVITATIONS
Your wedding is a time of celebration and thanksgiving. We would like to invite you to think of others at your wedding by nominating a charity of your choice for donations.
Your wedding invitations could include a phrase like:
"At the end of the wedding service a bowl will be available at the back of the church for donations towards our chosen charity and the work of the church in caring for the community."
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1) A meeting with Priest in Charge to arrange the wedding and to complete the legal form.
2) Marriage Preparation on a date to be arranged with St, Luke's Parish Centre.
3) Meeting(s) with the minister officiating at your wedding.
4) Rehearsal (Bride, Groom, Best Man, Bridesmaids, Page Boys, Brides Father needs to be there.
All monies should be paid to the office no later than six weeks before the date of your wedding.
The role of the ushers is important to your day.
They are responsible for arriving at church an hour before the service begins; getting guests into church as soon as they arrive, giving out service booklets and showing guests to their seats in church.
You will need two witnesses to witness your signatures on the registers. One normally represents the bride and the other the groom. For example some people choose the best man and a bridesmaid, others a parent each, or a friend or relative over the age of 18 years.
The Church of England sets national fees for weddings. Part of this fee goes to Durham Diocese towards payment of the clergy. Part goes towards the Parochial Church Council (governing body) of the church in which your marriage takes place.
PLEASE PAY these no later than six weeks before your wedding date.
There is normally one Bible reading in the service which can be read by the Minister or someone of your choosing. You may have two readings if you like and it is quite possible to introduce non-Bible readings - these need to be discussed with the Minister taking your wedding.
There are many elements which go to make up a marriage service, of which probably the most important are the vows you will exchange as a couple. However, the other parts of the service all point towards this, including the Bible reading. Following are a selection of Bible readings which are particularly appropriate for a wedding, although you may choose any passage you wish.
You may find it helpful to look together through these readings and choose one which you feel says something important about your relationship with each other (and with God). All of the readings were written some time ago and have been handed down to us, yet they appear to be very relevant to today. Some of the readings reflect a more traditional understanding of marriage others seem to echo a more modern one.
Whichever reading you choose, it is your wedding, and we hope that all the various parts which go to make up the service will help you to share in your wedding service together with your family and friends.
Then God said, ‘Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the wild animals of the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth.’So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.’
Song of Solomon 2:10-13; 8:6-7
He said to me, “Rise up, my love. Come with me, my beautiful one. Look! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. Flowers are appearing on the earth. The season for singing has come. The cooing of doves is heard in our land. The fig-trees are producing their early fruit. The flowers on the vines are giving off their sweet smell. Rise up and come, my love. Come with me, my beautiful one.”
OR: “Hold me close to your heart like the seal around your neck. Keep me close to yourself like the ring on your finger. My love is so strong it won’t let you. Love is as powerful as death. Love’s jealousy is as strong as the grave. Love is like a blazing fire. It burns like a mighty flame. No amount of water can put it out. Rivers can’t drown it. Suppose someone offers all of his wealth to buy love. That won’t even come close to being enough.”
From Romans 8
What then are we to say about these things? If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not withhold his own Son, but gave him up for all of us, will he not with him also give us everything else? Who will bring any charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. Who is to condemn? It is Christ Jesus, who died, yes, who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us. Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution,, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
From Romans 12
I appeal to you therefore, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God ~ what is good and acceptable and perfect. Let love be genuine; hate what is evil, hold fast to what is good; love one another with mutual affection; outdo one another in showing honour. Do not lag in zeal, be ardent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints; extend hospitality to strangers.
From Romans 15
We who are strong ought to put up with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Each of us must please our neighbour for the good purpose of building up the neighbour. For Christ did not please himself; but, as it is written, ‘The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.’May the God of steadfastness and encouragement grant you to live in harmony with one another, in accordance with Christ Jesus, so that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Welcome one another, therefore, just as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
I Corinthians 13
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
From Ephesians 4
I, the prisoner in the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to the one hope of your calling, one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is above all and through all and in all.
From Colossians 3
As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against oneanother. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
From 1 John 4
Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love. God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.
From Matthew 5
When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, and he began to teach them, saying: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
From Mark 10
Jesus said, ‘From the beginning of creation, “God made them male and female.” “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.’
People were bringing little children to him in order that he might touch them; and the disciples spoke sternly to them. But when Jesus saw this, he was indignant and said to them, ‘Let the little children come to me; do not stop them; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of God belongs. Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it.’ And he took them up in his arms, laid his hands on them, and blessed them.
From John 2
On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine,’ and Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.’ His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’ Now standing there were six stone water-jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them, ‘Fill the jars with water,' and they filled them up to the brim. He said to them, ‘Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.’ So they took it. When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward called the bridegroom and said to him, ‘Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.’ Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.
John 15. 9-17
Jesus said to his disciples: ‘As the Father has loved me, so I have loved you; abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. I have said these things to you so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete.
This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. I do not call you servants any longer, because the servant does not know what the master is doing; but I have called you friends, because I have made known to you everything that I have heard from my Father. You did not choose me but I chose you, and I appointed you to go and bear fruit, fruit that will last, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask him in my name. I am giving you these commands so that you may love one another.’
You may wish to discuss with your minister what kinds of photographs you would like of your actual time in church. As this is a religious and legal ceremony we hope that your photographer will respect this by:
Not taking photographs during the singing of the hymns, the prayers, the readings or the vows. Not standing in front of the bride and groom during the vows & exchanging of rings. (Couples are usually feeling nervous, and a photographer moving all round the church at these times, does not help them to focus).
It is not permitted, in law to take a photograph whilst the actual signing of the registers is taking place. Couples will usually pose for photographs immediately afterwards.
Anyone is welcome to take photographs before the ceremony and after the blessing, anywhere in the church. Wedding parties are welcome to use the church garden too.
A new commandment, Dear Lord and Father of Mankind (Selected Verses), Father hear the prayer we offer, Give me joy in my heart, God in the planning and purpose of life, Great is thy faithfulness, Guide me, O thou great Redeemer, Jesus stand among us, Lord of all hopefulness, Lord, for the years, Love divine all loves excelling, Make me a channel of your peace, Morning has broken, O perfect love, O perfect love, all human thought transcending, Praise my soul the King of Heaven, Lord of the dance (selected verses), The Lord's my shepherd, Through all the changing scenes of life.